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Why do people have affairs? Why not do the right thing and leave a marriage first if one is inclined to step out of it? The reasons are as varied as the people involved. Public perception of infidelity is someone with a sexual overdrive and their pants around their ankles, and while that may be true in some cases, its not as common a reason as one would think. The following are just a few of the reasons for staying in a marriage and having extracurricular activities.Setting up your own photography business it easy, you dont need office space in can be done from your own home. However this is not the easiest type of .....
*FINANCES:
Hardly the stuff of romance, but yes, money matters play a HUGE part in the decision to stay or leave. For women, its often a question of not making enough to support themselves, let alone a family, so they put up and shut up. For men, child and spousal maintenance can reduce them to living below the poverty level. Loss of accumulated material wealth also plays an important part in the decision to stay.
*CHILDREN:
Okay, weve all heard both sides of that argument. There are those who believe you should put up with damn near anything for the kids, and those who believe if the marriage is on the rocks, the kids are better off without it staying intact. Either way, kids are pretty resilient, they can adapt to any situation. The parents cant. Being a non-custodial parent is gut wrenching, and most parents would be willing to do anything to avoid that scenario. To go from daily contact to bi-weekly visitations, or worse, being a check in the mail is a giant leap, and not a good one. For a lot of us, its far preferable to have regular contact with a less than ideal spouse than to have limited contact with our kids.
*MORALS:
Believe it or not, we still have them. Its not an easy decision to step outside your marriage; it goes against everything weve ever been taught. Most of us struggle with massive amounts of guilt before we ever cross that line, never mind after. Theres also the added pressure of expectations of family members, co-workers, and society in general to be upstanding citizens. None of us grow up aspiring to commit adultery, and we feel like failures when we do succumb. Leading a double life allows us at least the perception of a successful marriage, even if truthfully its in name only.
*ABUSE:
This is self-explanatory. Whether the abuse is implied or historical, physical or emotional, the effect is the same. Simply, one is just too damned scared to leave, and has little, if any, confidence in seeing themselves through. An affair may provide them with the encouragement and support that theyre lacking on the home front. As well, its an escape from what their reality is.
*EMOTIONAL COMMITMENT:
Okay, I already know what everyone is thinking. How is it possible to betray ones spouse and still claim to love them? Its simple really. The partner that is having the affair isnt having some of their needs met, but that doesnt necessarily erase all of the feelings they may have towards their spouse. He/she may be the most wonderful person in the world, having never done anything wrong to deserve being kicked to the curb, but there are elements missing in the relationship that the affair makes up for. It could be lack of interest in their partners hobbies, incompatible libidos, lack of physical attraction, etc. Far too often, couples fawn over each other, only to stop dead in their tracks after the wedding ceremony. They get along fine, theyre great company for each other, but they become complacent, as though the need to hold their partners interest no longer exists. They no longer worry about looking good or showing genuine enthusiasm towards their partner, but in their own way, there is still an affectionate bond and a commitment to the marriage.
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Even though we realize that we run the risk of being caught, and that it will be devastating to our partners when we are, we commit adultery to avoid hurting them. How does one walk up to their partner of 20-30 years, and inform them that theyve met someone else? Thanks for everything, but Im out of here? We lie and sneak around to delay the pain as long as possible, even though it hurts us to do so, and eventually, our spouses too.BE SURE - Moving can be extremely stressful, be as certain as you can be that it's the right move for you before you go. If possible visit the country before you .....
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