Wedding Favors
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The Secret To Success In Courtship And Marriage, Sex And Happiness (Part 2)
   
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How To Choose Best Gifts For Your Special Friends
You started to get headache when you are invited to party. Not because you are not please, but there often problem when you have to choose the best .....
You started to get headache when you are invited to party. Not because you are not please, but there often problem when you have to choose the best .....
It seems much easier to
fall in love than to stay in love. --DR. KAREN KAYSER.
Would you want to marry in haste and repent at leisure? No,
folk. May that not be your destiny. But you see, marriage is
like a packed theater with some uninterested spectators wanting
to get out, and other interested ones waiting outside, wishing
to get in.
If you think though that marriage can solve all of your
problems, you are mistaken. Ask a married friend. But it can
give you a measure of security and satisfaction if you play by
the rules.
But we forget the rules, before we rush into matrimony. And when
a sailor forgets his navigation rules, he suffers a shipwreck.
You see, people enter into marriage relationships with little or
no preparation. If you were entering the university for example,
you will be asked to sit for a qualifying exam. You may even be
asked to show other supporting qualifications like the TOEFL if
you were heading for a U.S. university.
But these are small things compared to the permanent
relationship of marriage. Yet the only requirement in the
marriage registry is your signature. Nothing else.
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He's popped the question. You've chosen a date. And now, you're
swimming in a sea of euphoria with no horizons. Good thing, too,
because there .....
However, there are dangers to watch out for just before youHe's popped the question. You've chosen a date. And now, you're
swimming in a sea of euphoria with no horizons. Good thing, too,
because there .....
append your signature to that marriage certificate. And what are
they?
Failed Expectations
People think of marriage as a kind of fiction story where the
characters live happily ever after. But it is never so.
Because the great expectation of your Sleeping Beauty or Prince
Charming may turn out to be a bad dream. The love, attention and
support that you badly craved before marriage may turn out to be
a tale of rejection and disillusion.
Incompatibility
You may also discover after the marriage that both of you are
poles apart -- with different interests. Those characteristics
which were hidden before the marriage now becomes manifest. And
it becomes a story of if I had known. (No thanks to mismatch
and your beguiling mate!)
Conflict
Your Happy Valley or Fortunate Isles, now turns to be a
battlefield of squabbling, fighting, and God forbid -- physical
violence. The very sweet words, like honeycombs which were used
to win your hand in marriage now become weapons of abuse and
war.
Apathy
It may be that you will one day find yourself saying: I am no
longer interested. And then the marriage drags on and on, like
a factory worker tolerating a bad job -- to keep body and soul
together. And one day, apathy turns to hate, and you find
yourself telling your partner that the game is up!
Money
Do not deceive yourself thinking that money will make you happy.
It does the opposite, says Paul Getty the American millionaire.
Now suppose there is bickering over money in a joint venture? Or
suppose your previously rich spouse now suffers financial
misfortune? And you who were used to summer holidays in the
Virgin Islands, and cruising in yachts in the Mediterranean now
see poverty and hardship staring at you in the face? What will
you do?
Parenthood
You may find out that the love you had for your mate now begins
to drop when children start coming in. The reason may be that
you no longer have time for each other, or your mate is now
getting old. Is it time to sue for divorce?
Deceit
It may vex you to find out that you are living with an infidel,
a betrayal of trust, and not a friend and confidant. Now,
suppose you find out that your mate lied to you about his or her
history before the marriage? Or what if you find that your mate
was cheating on you -- committing adultery?
Sex
Suppose your partner starts depriving you of sex? Or what if
sex, which was supposed for enjoyment now becomes mechanical?
Some have even used sex as a bargain tool -- buy me a Swiss gold
watch, and I will give you sex!
Some wives have woken up after the wedding day to find out that
their husbands were impotents, or eunuchs. Husbands have also
been told by their wives that they would die if they had sex
together. Because they have husbands who satisfy their sexual
desires in the spirit world! What would you call that?
Superstition
This may also affect your marriage depending on where you live.
Barrenness, miscarriages, unseen attacks, deaths and broken
marriages have been supposedly caused by wicked spirits. Does
this bother you? Maybe not. But know that wicked spirits exist.
Inlaws
If you allow your inlaws to intrude into your family, they may
ruin your marriage. Both of you are now one, and should be able
to solve your marital problems without frequenting your parents,
or relations for advice.
Friends
What kinds of associates do you and your mate have? Are they
unwholesome friends? They will not help your marriage. Know that
bad company can corrupt good manners.
These are some of the things may shipwreck a marriage. They may
not be the case with your family. But know that there is no
perfect family on this earth. So there must be one kind of
problem or the other in your family. Now what are required to
make a marriage successful?
(To be continued)
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ARTHUR ZULU, is the author of the best- selling book, HOW TO
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About the author:
ARTHUR ZULU, is the author of the best- selling book, HOW TO
WRITE A BEST-SELLER.